I’ll start…
Here’s what I want:
“I want to say something that matters to somebody — not for their validation, but to give them the power to choose their life path free of the chains of conditioning and their limiting self-beliefs.
I want to say something only I can because I uniquely pilot my lived experience.
I want to find my core of human truth in my experience, communicate it eloquently and clearly, and have it be true and feel authentic to the people who wish to receive it.
I want to say something that resonates with them and makes them feel less alone.
I want to find my truth and say it.
Everything comes from within, and everything external is an illusion.
It’s not what you do; it’s why.”
That’s what I want.
Not because someone told me I should.
Not because it’s profitable or impressive.
But because it feels like mine.
It’s the kind of want that comes from deep inside, before the noise, before the filters, before the “shoulds.” It’s my personal compass.
And maybe you’re reading this thinking, “I wish I knew what I wanted that clearly.”
If so, let’s unpack what it really takes to find that clarity — your clarity.
Step by Step
Step 1: Start with What’s True for You (Not What’s Trending)
Too often, we look for direction by looking outward.
We scroll. We compare. We collect opinions. We measure ourselves by standards that were never ours to begin with.
And in doing so, we bury our own truth under layers of conditioning. Conditioning from the repeated exposure to all you consume; socially, familiarly, culturally, historically, visually and aurally. Basically, everything in your atmosphere.
To find what you truly want, you need to ask:
• What has always felt true for me, even when no one was watching?
• What moments in my life made me feel alive, real, grounded?
• What have I always known deep down, but maybe didn’t have the courage to admit?
Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes your soul feel less like a mask and more like a mirror.
Step 2: Capture Your Want — Like I Did
Take a moment. Write it (or dictate it into your phone) raw, unfiltered, in your own words using your own method.
Don’t worry about sounding polished or profound. Let it be messy, emotional, and specific. You’re not writing for an audience — you’re writing for clarity.
Try this prompt:
“I want to ________, not because ________, but because ________.”
Or even simpler:
“What I really want — when no one is looking — is…”
When you put your want into your words, you give it weight. You bring it from the abstract into the real. You make it visible — and that’s where power begins.
Step 3: Examine the Why (That’s Where the Gold Is)
Once you’ve written what you want, ask yourself:
• Why do I want this?
• What deeper value is this connected to?
• If no one ever praised me for it, would I still pursue it?
This is what I meant when I wrote, “It’s not what you do; it’s why.” That simple filter cuts to the heart of ANY matter. Give it a whirl… It’s ok, I’ll wait…
So many of us chase goals for borrowed reasons. But your why is your fuel — it’s what keeps you going when motivation fades and validation disappears.
If your why is real, the what doesn’t need to be flashy.
Step 4: Let It Be for Someone — But Not About Them
There’s a huge difference between saying something for validation and saying something that resonates.
When I said I wanted to speak my truth “not for validation but to give someone else power,” I was reminding myself to keep my ego out of it.
Your truth — when spoken from a clean place — does help people. It reminds them they’re not alone. It gives them permission. It becomes a lifeline.
But here’s the key: say what’s true for you. Not what you think others need to hear. When your words are rooted in authenticity, they find the people who need them most.
Step 5: Revisit It Often — Because You Will Evolve
This process isn’t one-and-done. The self is fluid. Your clarity today might become your stepping stone to tomorrow.
Come back to your core want regularly. Reread it. Rewrite it. Refine it. It’s not about perfection — it’s about alignment.
And when it feels real again, let it guide you.
Final Thought
In the words of those legendary philosophers, Richards and Jagger:
“You can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you just might find, you get what you need.”
In a world with so much noise, saying something true-to-you is a radical act. When it’s rooted in your lived experience, your soul, and your why, it carries something that can’t be copied — resonance.
So write it, record it, draw it sing it, code it, break out the flags and semaphore it. But say it.
Not to be heard by many.
But to reach those who are ready, including you.
Want help finding what you want? Drop a comment or connect — let’s build a world where people speak from truth, not trend.